This isn’t a critique — it’s a quiet curiosity. Trying to understand the invisible shape of male friendship, and why so many emotions seem to live in silence.
Thus is also what I have been interested in. Turns out it depends on personalities. Some men do talk about relationships, heartbreaks and emotional challenges, not so extensively as women though.
But most of the time they share stories, tell each other what happened to them, discuss movies, games, other consumed content.
I have been friends with guys most of my childhood, teenage and college years. Now my husband takes me with him to see his cousin, his friends. I listen or take part in conversation, depending on my mood.
There is not much they don't discuss with me in the room, however I do realise there are such topics and they usually involve some emotional vulnerability that they don't want to show to a girl (unless they're thoroughly drunk).
your writing is amazing! 🩷 whenever i watch a movie and there are scenes where male friends talk to each other, i watch with interest and wonder if it looks like this
More interesting question is why men don’t want to talk about their feelings with each other :(( I think most of them close in themselves or simply prefer to work through emotions on their own. I don’t know. Maybe it’s because of society? “Boys don’t cry” or something…
Hey there, a guy here. So, I do try and talk about emotions and these deep topics with my friends, but usually, they simply dismiss everything I say or their response is something very generic and inauthentic. It's strange; I've tried opening up to a couple of them, but after my relatively short monologue, they just looked at each other and said something along the lines of "So, have you played the new [insert name of a video game here]?"
Sometimes it irritates me how little thought they put into their emotions. I think they are so complex, so layered, and so wonderful in a sense. But they? They don't analyze or think of them as something so deep. It's a shame, honestly.
On the other hand, when I talk to my best friend about this, he listens, and even though his response isn't as deep as mine, it's still a valuable input into the conversation.
Lastly, I would like to say that this usually happens after some time with the friend. I'm talking about hours after you've started "hanging out". I realized that after a couple of hours, the "it's alright" pretense falls and they slowly open up.
TL;DR: It depends on each person. Some guys simply dismiss the emotions or don't think much of them. Others may think more deeply about them, but it's still not as deep as some might like.
Haha! My husband and I just watched this episode of FRIENDS last night.
Thus is also what I have been interested in. Turns out it depends on personalities. Some men do talk about relationships, heartbreaks and emotional challenges, not so extensively as women though.
But most of the time they share stories, tell each other what happened to them, discuss movies, games, other consumed content.
I have been friends with guys most of my childhood, teenage and college years. Now my husband takes me with him to see his cousin, his friends. I listen or take part in conversation, depending on my mood.
There is not much they don't discuss with me in the room, however I do realise there are such topics and they usually involve some emotional vulnerability that they don't want to show to a girl (unless they're thoroughly drunk).
Absolutely love this and share this same curiosity!
your writing is amazing! 🩷 whenever i watch a movie and there are scenes where male friends talk to each other, i watch with interest and wonder if it looks like this
Thank you for your kind words, and taking the time to read this, Rozalia 🤍 right!! Me too, I can’t help it but be so curious
More interesting question is why men don’t want to talk about their feelings with each other :(( I think most of them close in themselves or simply prefer to work through emotions on their own. I don’t know. Maybe it’s because of society? “Boys don’t cry” or something…
Hey there, a guy here. So, I do try and talk about emotions and these deep topics with my friends, but usually, they simply dismiss everything I say or their response is something very generic and inauthentic. It's strange; I've tried opening up to a couple of them, but after my relatively short monologue, they just looked at each other and said something along the lines of "So, have you played the new [insert name of a video game here]?"
Sometimes it irritates me how little thought they put into their emotions. I think they are so complex, so layered, and so wonderful in a sense. But they? They don't analyze or think of them as something so deep. It's a shame, honestly.
On the other hand, when I talk to my best friend about this, he listens, and even though his response isn't as deep as mine, it's still a valuable input into the conversation.
Lastly, I would like to say that this usually happens after some time with the friend. I'm talking about hours after you've started "hanging out". I realized that after a couple of hours, the "it's alright" pretense falls and they slowly open up.
TL;DR: It depends on each person. Some guys simply dismiss the emotions or don't think much of them. Others may think more deeply about them, but it's still not as deep as some might like.
Right!! We need some answers